Over at Dandiewinks, I’ve shared several cards to honor the grief some of us feel on Mothers Day.
Here’s a small preview of a couple of the them:
There are also cards for those of you are missing your own mothers and grandmothers and a “Thinking of You” card for TTC, IF, and adoptive mommas, who are still waiting for their babies. You can also view and share the cards via the Dandiewinks Facebook Page.
Wishing you ladies love, light, and peace today.
Posted in Family, Grief, TTC & Infertility, We Remember
Tagged mother's day, remembering
Today is not my first Mothers Day… I became a mother four years ago, on the Tuesday before Thanksgiving, when I saw two lines that changed me forever. When I delivered my first baby, stillborn at 18 weeks, then held his small body in my arms, I was still his mother. When I left the hospital with a memory box instead of my first child, when I bought him an urn, then weeks later picked up his ashes to bring home, I was still his mother.
On my first Mother’s day, I had one baby in heaven: Calvin.
On my second Mother’s Day, I had two babies in heaven: Calvin and Rainbow.
On my third Mother’s Day, I had three babies in heaven: Calvin, Rainbow, and Gaelen.
Today is my fourth Mothers Day, and today I am blessed to be able to say that I have four children: Calvin, Rainbow, and Gaelen in heaven, and Charlie who is living in my womb.
Today isn’t my first Mother’s Day, but for the first time, I can spend it not only remembering the babies I was honored to carry for their short lives, but also looking forward to raising their baby brother on this earth. For that I am grateful.
Posted in Bumble Bee, Calvin Phoenix, Gaelen Evangeline, Pregnancy, Rainbow Baby
Tagged mother's day
Stephanie, mommy to heaven baby, Amelia Rose, is the artist behind Beyond Words Designs and does beautiful work that supports grieving parents, honors the babies we have lost, and celebrates life and pregnancy. Recently, she started the Donate Art Project, which provides beautiful art cards for families who have lost a child.
To help support Stephanie’s Donate Art Project, I’m over at Beyond Words Designs today, where I share my Calvin Phoenix and what it was like to delivery him, hold him, then have to leave the hospital with only a memory box, and how much it would have meant to receive one of Stephanie’s art cards.
Learn more about the Donate Art Project by clicking the button below:
And please consider offering your support by sharing your story and/or making a donation—just $1 is enough to create a card for a newly bereaved family.
Posted in Calvin Phoenix, Grief, We Remember
Tagged babyloss support, beyond words designs, Calvin Phoenix, Donate Art Project
It’s been 38 months since Calvin was born. I can’t believe it’s been over three years. Especially in the early days of grief, it was hard to imagine surviving. But here I am, a survivor of stillbirth, two miscarriages, and infertility. Today, I am 35 weeks and 5 days pregnant with my fourth child.
Although time has softened the edges of grief and being pregnant with Charlie has breathed new life and hope in me, it hasn’t changed the fact that I miss my first baby… and my second baby… and my third baby. It doesn’t change the wondering Do others remember them? Do other think about them? Have people forgotten?
Something that I’ve learned is that even though we are the ones who are deeply hurting, missing, and grieving, it’s not enough to wait and expect others to come to us and offer support. There is so much fear surrounding how to approached the bereaved that, to get the comfort we need, it’s up to us to reach out and say Please let us know that you remember us, that you remember the child(ren) we’ve lost. It seems backwards, and it took me a while to reconcile this, but until we tell others that the best way to be there for us is not to distract or avoid, it will continue. To help get this message out, I created this card, which can you read more about at Dandiewinks:
Please feel free to use it and share. Clicking on the image will bring you to Flickr, where you can choose which size you’d like to download. And here is the quote, which I first read from Tiffany (Genesis’s mommy):
“If you know someone who has lost a child or lost anybody who’s important to them, and you’re afraid to mention them because you think you might make them sad by reminding them that they died, they didn’t forget they died. You’re not reminding them. What you’re reminding them of is that you remember that they lived, and that’s a great, great gift.” (Elizabeth Edwards)
Happy 38 months in heaven, my sweet Calvin. I am forever grateful for you.
Posted in Design, Photos, The 5th Belongs to Calvin, We Remember
Tagged elizabeth edwards, remembering, supporting bereaved parents
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